Women, Romance & Love

... THE BIG BOYS' GAME!

2010-11-05T08:42:00.000-07:00

Boys will always say you're pretty,

That you have a lovely pair of eyes.

Tell you, you're sweet and sexy,

That your person is really very nice.

Whisper of love to make you giddy,

Then lure you with that female vice;

Promises of tomorrow! So dreamy!

But you're nothing but his game of dice!

FRIENDSHOPPE GIRLS Official Website!

2009-07-24T07:00:00.001-07:00

There’s always this certain stage in a girl’s life were BOYS are simply not part of it. A certain stage wherein you all hang-out with your girl friends with a big sign that says BOYS ARE OFF LIMITS! As for me, it was the FRIENDSHOPPE GIRLS that got me through that stage. The age wherein you’re not yet a teenager but you definitely can’t wait to become one. I was 12 by that time and I could remember being at school with Helen, Sheila, Lore, Diane, Kristine and my best friend, May Ann. We openly hated boys and I guess we believed that those boys were afraid of us (to say the least). We dominated the entire school and teachers couldn’t do anything to stop us because we were one of their best students inside and outside the classroom (or so we believe it was that way). Not necessarily a teacher’s pet, but then we can’t be their enemies either because we were on top of each and every school program. Helen was class president and each of us had our own co-curricular organizations to handle and boss around with. I’d say, in Liceo de Cagayan (grade school) batch 1997 was indeed about the FRIENDSHOPPE GIRLS.

Looking back at those time, it was all just a simple kind of friendship. The Friendshoppe Girls were the school’s version of the Spice Girls and SHIGJAPPEXD were the Backstreet Boys. I’m pretty sure a lot of people would disagree with me or would maybe say that its so “badoy” or “old-school.” But 15 years ago, Spice Girls and Backstreet were the hottest! You have to admit that one! I guess its just part of child development to form idolatry and even imitate popular artists.

Anyway, the FRIENDSHOPPE GIRLS has finally decided to tie some loose ends of the knot and finally come into terms that we were more than just a girl group at our time. We managed to survive 15 years of being close friends and thus, we decided to come up with a website. As a commemoration of all those wonderful years that we’ve spent together. I’m proud to say that the Friendshoppe Girls made it through thick and thin.

A Tribute to MY Mom on Mother’s Day!

2009-05-10T13:36:00.000-07:00

About a couple of months ago, I had my heart broken and my life shattered when my boyfriend broke up with me. I couldn’t really take the pain that I had to cry it out loud on the second day (March 6, 2009). So, since I broke down and just simply cried and cried, everybody at home knew what happened to me. Luckily for me, my family has been very supportive of me. My boyfriend’s name became a taboo topic at once even if there was no verbal rule that was imposed. My brother stopped teasing me. My aunts treated me like a baby and never left me alone even for a second. My sister-in-law would actually come and get me anywhere, any time and every time I’d asked her to. My even tried to hide everything that would actually be a reminder of him. But among the members of my family it was my mom who cried with me every time I feel like I couldn’t take it anymore. She took me to Cebu, so that I won’t encounter any familiar place or face that would actually remind me of him (my ex boyfriend). My mom understood when no one else seems to really understand what I was feeling. My mom would wiped the tears from my face and almost literally carry me to be. She’d lie down beside me, hugging me while I cried my heart out.

At first, I thought my mom was going to tell me “I deserved” the pain that I was experiencing because I actually gave all of my free time for my boyfriend and would only stay at home long enough to sleep, take a bath and eat. But NO! She never slap that truth into my face even, none of them ever did. My mom picked me up when I fell down and became my pillar when I needed a steady shoulder to cry on. So, this one’s for her,

THANK YOU MOMMY!

for being there for me especially during these times that I need you the most. You’ve always been there for me and I wouldn’t have survived this at all without you. For in your eyes, I’d always be the little girl you carried on your shoulder. For in your eyes, there’s nothing that I could have done that you won’t be able to forgive. For in your eyes, my downfall is your pain. I couldn’t be more thankful to God that HE gave you to me… to be my mother. Happy Mother’s Day!

Minor Disappointments

2008-02-02T10:45:00.000-08:00

Ladies, do you ever get this feeling of being neglected by a boyfriend? I guess we all do. I know that missing out on dates and major occasions such as the Valentines Day, your birthday and anniversaries are major offenses when it comes to a relationship. But somehow it’s those little things that make you feel neglected. It’s not the major ones. Things such as forgetting to call or send you a text message with just a simple “hello, how’s your day,” or things such as refusing to accompany you in your company’s get together. These tiny emotions of disappoint you get out of those simple things will then pile up inside your heart and somehow it’s like a virus that slowly kills the love within. The problem is, because these are really minor problems guys never really cared enough to take a second look. It seems like its useless to talk about it because guys might think were making a big deal out of something so small. A rightful imagery to this situation might be a jar half filled with water. Every now and then a pebble is being thrown inside. The water rises up and up and up until it reaches the top and spills. That’s why simple or minor disappoints should never be neglected because it is one of the majors causes of break-ups between couples.

True Story

2008-01-30T11:57:00.000-08:00

Here's an Excerpt from Yahoo Answers about a Relationship

THE QUESTION
I've met the parents but he didn't introduce me as the girlfriend, now what?

My boyfriend and i have been together for almost a year... and somehow, there's this silent agreement between us that meeting the parents is not yet an option for us --- he has a cafe and i hang out there most of the time... if his parents says they're coming over to the cafe -- he'd tell me and i'd leave ASAP -- its not that he's asked me to leave -- its just -- i leave... anyway, last night -- he knew his parents were coming over along with his brother and his uncle's family... he didn't tell / warn me! i was caught unguarded--- but the worst part was when they got there --- he didn't introduce me... he just acted as if everything was normal -- and somehow just left his family GUESSING as to what i was doing there alone with him! he didn't act like he was ashamed though... he was normally sweet... and when i asked him WHY he didn't warn me people were coming... he didn't say anything...

THE ANSWERS

I wouldn't bring it up. Maybe he wanted to "introduce" you in a low pressure setting.
I think you both need to figure out why you are trying to sneak around like a couple of 13 year olds.
Yes, I would say that is definitely a red flag in the relationship.
I guess you could either ask him to start legitimizing your relationship or find someone who is willing to do so.
I think it's time to have "the talk" with him... it's cool to be the cool girl etc etc... but you can't be left in the "gray area" like that. Not after a year. I would say by now - you have a right to ask for more.
he is probably scared that someone will tease him about having a gf, or he isnt aloud to date. but sooner or later, he will tell them, just be patient, or talk to him bout it. and tell him he can be honest with you about anything.
That's very strange, maybe he has already introduced someone as the gf to the family. If he loves you he should be proud to introduce you as his gf and for you to meet his family.
yikes. You're not the one for him. My husband has had lots of girlfriends. I was the first girl my husband introduced to his mom. We're married.
Then again, maybe you two are tooo young and the parents want him to go to school and get a good job and think that a gf might complicate their plans for him.
He is either hiding something from you or he is embarrassed about something. This is not normal for a couple who has been dating for almost a year. Why would he be ashamed of introducing you to his parents? Is there an obvious reason? I would certainly have a talk with him about this. If he continues to do this, I feel you are wasting your time. If he was proud of having you as his girlfriend, he would have no problem introducing you and he wouldn't have waited this long.
Maybe he didn't warn you because he wanted you to meet his family and not run off like usual.
oh no hes scared of people teasing him

This is still open for discussions and more answers!

Women: "I need you to say the words!"

2008-01-29T06:57:00.000-08:00

In the advent of February's occasion (The Valentines Day - of course) one can't help but wonder if she's going to experience the ideal Valentines. The kind we see on movies with the roses, fine dining and music. The kind of date that seems unreal yet it somehow lasts for more than a life time. But, what if you're in a relationship that you're not really certain as to how the guy truly feels about you and the whole romance thing. You want to ask him the question, "Do you love?" but then you're scared if the answer might not be what you're longing to hear. There are about a million and one ladies in this world whose in this dilemma. Does doubting your partner means you're just being paranoid? NO -- its not that you're being paranoid or you just want TOO much attention from your man. The truth is, after all those times you shared together, there's still this certain empty space within your heart that says he's perfect but its not enough. Its not enough that he takes you out to dinner on month-saries or anniversaries. Its not enough that he seem to care for you more than any other boyfriend ever did. Its not enough unless he says those WORDS. Don't fool yourself, if he can't say it, then HE DOESN'T FEEL it at all. But take note as well, that not all guys who say those words truly meant what they're saying. Ladies, its like this, if the guy says "I LOVE YOU" then its might be true or he might just want you to fall for him so that you'll agree to have sex with him. In other words, the guy who says the words isn't 100% true... BUT a guy who can't say the words only means one thing --- HE DOESN'T LOVE YOU at all. Don't fool yourself... Don't wait for him... He's not worth it!

Happy Valentines

2008-01-26T02:53:00.001-08:00

Christmas Party

2007-12-21T01:01:00.001-08:00

A Woman's Worst Nightmare

2007-12-12T15:58:00.000-08:00

Probably a woman’s worst nightmare is to be raped or harassed by her own father – and even just carrying the thought of the attempt, and I am speaking out of my own experience. My own father never really got his hands on me because of some reasons; I always end up being awakened by a sound every time he gets inside my room. Last night or early in the morning rather, at approximately 3:00 in the morning, I was again awaken by a sound and found my dad creeping near my bed. Luckily, I have a mosquito net and he was having a hard time getting near me because the net would create a sound. I couldn’t scream nor do anything. When he noticed that I had awakened, he ducked near my bed thinking that I wouldn’t be able to see him but I did. I still didn’t make any sound and pretended that I didn’t notice him. I was scared to death. I called for my mother and when I did he run outside my room and even outside the house and my mom didn’t get a chance to see him. He then came back inside and pretended he was just urinating outside. I asked my mom to sleep beside me until morning and simply told her that I had a nightmare. I couldn’t tell my mom the truth because she might have a heart attack and I’d rather have my own father dead than let it happen. I don’t know how I can protect myself without telling my mom the truth. As much as possible, I’d like to keep her inside the cocoon of bliss thinking that she raised the perfectly family. I don’t know what to do or think. I just know that I my home isn’t my home at all.

Disney Princesses - What do they have in common with all women?

2007-11-26T11:57:00.000-08:00

All women grew from a little girl with an ideal fairy tale princess in mind, be it Cinderella, Snow White, Sleeping Beauty, Belle, Aerial or Jasmine dreaming of only two things: ADVENTURE and TRUE LOVE.

As time passes by, these dreams are slowly covered as reality sets in the moment a girl gets her heart broken for the very first time, thus the saying, "FIRST LOVE NEVER DIES." Its not that it never really dies, but then I guess its just the kind that hurts the most because along with a broken heart and a shattered pride comes the realization that our little princess dreams were meant to remain a fantasy forever. When a young lady gets her heart broken for the first time, everything is thorn into pieces.

Yet growing up with these princess dreams aren't as bad as others might think. Our princess characters does shape the kind of woman that flourishes from the little girl. It brings out the feminine side and the idea of maintaining once beauty and poise even as she slumbers or faces her evil stepmother. The stories of these princesses are also a key factor as to why women are also optimistic when it comes to falling in love.

Modern Day Fairy Tales

2007-11-12T04:39:00.000-08:00

PRETTY WOMAN! This movie is one of those fairy tales that uses a modern day setting. Romantic? -- yes it is definitely romantic... but i think its not being realistic... Face it ladies, as much as we would want to fantasize that a BILLIONAIRE would willingly throw his reputation away just so he can marry a WHORE, it is simply not that simple in the real world. Nonetheless this movie made me cry the first time i saw it and I was about 10 years old by then. I guess deep inside me, or any other woman for that matter, would always dream of having a gallant knight in his shining armor forsaking everything just to be with his princess. I do believe that in the heart of every woman lies a princess and a hope or a wish of a prince and of happily-ever-afters. Unfortunately, not all fairy tales come true and not all princes are as gallant as Edward (Richard Gear) in the pretty woman.

Women want a ONE-WOMAN-MAN

2007-11-11T23:48:00.000-08:00

There is probably know woman on earth that would like to have a man that couldn't keep his pants on for other women. Above all others, a woman desires to have a boyfriends or a husband who would adore and worship her and NO ONE else. Men can't definitely reason out with saying "I love you both..." because for us, love can't be shared in the same degree. Its always AND I mean ALWAYS, that a man loves the other greater and just finds it hard to leave the other one. As a woman, I believe that love between a woman and man must be both selfish yet selfless. Selfish because true love must only be given and taken by ONE person alone, and selfless because its given without something in return... nothing but pure HONESTY... of whether the love will be returned or not... no buts, no in betweens, no half loaves. If a man can't love stick with one woman, then he doesn't really love her at all.

Is this Love?

2007-10-30T08:01:00.000-07:00

I really am a pessimist when it comes to a Filipina-Foreigner Chat Relationship. I never really believed that one could love a person whom he/she hasn't even met yet. To me, it just all plain pathetic! Each side had a hidden interest somewhere that's why they married each other and that reason is definitely not love.

I believed that the reason behind why Filipinas marry foreigners is because of MONEY and the GREEN CARD, and foreigners who marry a Filipina are usually older and divorced. Secondly, most of the Filipinas who are single mothers are somehow desperate to get married just so they could lift the family honor back. A single mother is commonly termed "disgrasyada" here in the Philippines and being called one does not really speak much of one's character and virtues as a woman. Most families of Filipinos wouldn't want their son to marry a "disgrasyada" girl which means their is less chance for single mothers to really find a good Filipino husband. Third, Filipinos seems to have a concept that being married to a foreigner would instantly change the distant relatives and the neighbors' point of view towards the whole family. From being poor and discriminated they suddenly become rich and popular.

On the other hand most foreigners are looking for somebody who'd willingly take care of them when they grow really old. Being a home-for-the-aged in-mate is very expensive and not to mention lonely as hell. Getting much younger wife from a third world country who considers them a gift from heaven seems to be a better idea than going into Homes.

I believe both parties are aware that their's going to be no love involved in the marriage or the relationship. Filipinas need money and green cards and foreigners need care takers. Fair exchange isn't it? But the only thing that puzzles me is this,

Why is it that this "agreed" marriages last far longer than the real ones?
Love Could Happen from a Distance
Is love really that complicated and unpredictable?

Compatibility Between Taurus and Scorpio

2007-10-29T14:10:00.000-07:00

I took this match test on the net pertaining Zodiac signs between lovers. I just got curious, and below is the result of my test. I'm really not into astrology and I am not sure if I should believe the words of somebody whom we haven't even met. How could he/she possibly know who and what we are and whether we are compatible or not? Yet, somehow, the analysis got most of the major parts in terms of our (my boyfriend and mine's) attitude. Could looking at the stars, planets, sun and moon really have an effect on people's behavior if they're born under the same sign? Are these traits really common to all Taurians?

Perfect Match

Taurus and Scorpio

When Taurus and Scorpio come together in a love affair, their union is nothing if not intense, whether that's in a positive or a negative way. They are opposite Signs in the Zodiac, giving them a special, complex connection. They can combine to make a whole, each partner's strengths balancing the other's weaknesses. Their sexual attraction is likely to be off the charts! Taurus and Scorpio have tons in common, but because their personalities are so powerful, they often swing between passionate love and passionate disagreement!

Taurus and Scorpio both have deep desires, Taurus for possessions and Scorpio for power. They're both concerned with wealth and resources, and they're both intensely passionate about all sorts of things. Taurus is a bit more self-focused than Scorpio, who is more concerned with their lover and immediate family. Both of these Signs have a great, deep-rooted need for security in a relationship, but with slightly different focuses. While Taurus prizes honesty and forthrightness and abhors infidelity, Scorpio loves to be mysterious. A Scorpio's need for security is more about the need to be constantly reassured that their emotional connection with their loved one is strong. The good thing is, Taurus needs this reassurance too -- and is also willing to provide it for their Scorpio lover.

Taurus is ruled by Venus (Love and Money) and Scorpio is ruled by Mars (Passion) and Pluto (Power). This combination is very intense, thanks to Pluto's influence, but it's an excellent balance of masculine and feminine energy. Scorpio and Taurus together form the basis of all love relationships -- love and passion. Venus and Mars go well together; Venus is about the beauty of romance, and Mars is about the passion of romance. Scorpio is smoldering and intense (and intensely sexual), and Taurus, a sensual and tireless lover, is attracted to this intensity. In turn, Scorpio enjoys the devotion inherent in Venus-ruled Taurus.

E-Crush

Taurus and Scorpio

When Taurus and Scorpio come together, the result is two Signs opposite one another in the Zodiac so a blending of two halves. Signs in polarity such as these often combine to make a whole, each partner's strengths balancing the other's weaknesses. Signs in polarity often have a strong sexual attraction, and when they are together the barometer may rise! Taurus and Scorpio have a great deal in common, but because they have such powerful personalities this relationship is often one that goes back and forth from passionate love to passionate disagreement!

Taurus and Scorpio enjoy working together toward owning things: Taurus wants possessions and Scorpio wants power. Both of these Signs are about wealth and resources, including inheritances and taxes. They are both passionate about all aspects of life. They complement each other because Taurus is more about the self while Scorpio is about the immediate group, including family. Additionally, Taurus is more direct while Scorpio is mysterious. Because of their differences, both Signs can grow and learn from each other if they can agree to compromise.

Taurus is ruled by Venus and Scorpio is ruled by Mars and Pluto. This combination is very intense, thanks to Pluto's influence, but it's a good balance of masculine and feminine energy. The two Signs coming together form the basic foundation of human relationships -- Venus' love and Mars' passion. Venus and Mars go well together; Venus is about the beauty of romance, and Mars is about the passion of romance. Scorpio is smoldering and intense, and Taurus is attracted to this intensity; in turn, Scorpio enjoys the devotion inherent in Venus-ruled Taurus.

Taurus is an Earth Sign and Scorpio is a Water Sign. Scorpio is a very deep Sign; it's an ocean, and too much upset will cause a tidal wave! Scorpio emotionally recedes and recedes, then suddenly roars back with a vengeance. Taurus and Scorpio are strongly loyal to each other, a product of their mutual need for emotional security. But while Taurus is open, with everything laid bare on the surface, Scorpio is more focused on the undercurrents of life. Scorpio can show Taurus beyond the literal surface, while Taurus can teach Scorpio that a spade is sometimes just a spade. Additionally, Scorpio appreciates the Taurean practicality and Taurus enjoys Scorpio's jealousy -- it proves they are adored and appreciated.

Taurus and Scorpio are both Fixed Signs. Once they have a common goal, nothing will get in the way. If the opinions of these partners are different, though, explosions may ensue! It often appears that Taurus will get prevail as the dominant partner, but that isn't always the case. Sometimes Scorpio won't even agree to disagree, although they might pretend to give in and later gain revenge through emotional manipulation. It's important for these partners to discuss what is truly important to them so they can reach an equitable compromise. Once Scorpio learns to trust Taurus and understand the implications of a partnership, the pair can achieve almost anything through sheer determination. The relationship will only fail if the two partners truly cannot overcome their opinionated, fixed sides.

The best aspect of the Taurus-Scorpio relationship is their powerful teamwork when they agree on their goals. When Scorpio realizes that Taurus is there for the long term, and will not create the misery that some Scorpios attract to their lives, this relationship can blossom. Their mutual determination makes theirs a relationship of formidable strength.

When a Woman is in Love

2007-10-29T12:41:00.000-07:00

Most if not all of the guys who have girlfriend would agree with the statement that “women are unpredictable” and that one can’t really tell if she’s just being coy or she’s really not interested.

But didn’t you know that it doesn’t take a single word at all for a woman to unconsciously give away what she really feels? Women are known to be wordy and we can really speak out our minds. But when words don’t come out from a woman’s mouth, that’s time that guys must be able to tell those words from her actions. Guys, here are some tip on how to tell when a woman is in love.

1 – SMILES

A woman who’s in love can’t help smiling. It goes to show that she’s happy and she knows she’s in love. Every time you meet her on a date, she then looks up and smiles at you as if you are her whole world. Try giving her some flowers, if she glows even more, then you don’t need a fortune teller to know what she feels about you.

2 – EYES

There’s a certain glow in the eyes of a woman that only shines if and when she falls in love. It’s a mixture of tenderness and affection for the man she loves.

3 – FRIENDS

Guys, if the girl starts introducing her friends, that’s a sure dead give away that she wants her friends to assess you as THE boyfriend. A girl who is not in love wouldn’t even bother what her friends and family might think of the relationship. But if she starts talking to her girl friends then something is definitely cooking inside her heart.

4 – MUSIC

A girl in love just can’t help herself! She floats on the air if she hears honey-sweetened, sugar-coated love songs (especially if it’s being sang by a man). All the while, she’s imagining that the singer is her boyfriend singing to her a love song and confessing undying devotion. (Girls, don’t deny it please!) Guys, if you know how to play a musical instrument, this would be a good time to show off some of those talents if you want a 100% score on her heart!

5 – MAKE-UP and CLOTHES

Women are both insecure and competitive. If a woman is in love she surely wants to feel confident about her looks and of the relationship. That’s when she starts putting on make-up, wearing heels and trying on some new sexy dresses. Most importantly, she starts asking for her man’s opinion on how she looks. (TIP: Guys, telling the truth might just not be the key to win her hear t even more… tsk tsk tsk… never tell her she’s fat or she looks ugly… she will certainly bolt for the next train if you did. )

Ladies are and will always be COY!

2007-10-28T21:03:00.001-07:00

Ladies can be really coy even if they’re dying for the guy’s attention. Guys don’t ask why. That’s just the way we are. Nothing is more enticing and exciting for a woman than to have her man to go into a whirl wind – wondering when and if she’s going to surrender to him. Some females can appear so cool and confident and carefree even if they’re already trembling with excitement deep inside. A man just have to really be super sensitive for him to know what’s behind the façade. That’s what you call COURTSHIP!

shanon jade

What a Woman Wants

2007-10-28T20:07:00.001-07:00

Men! Read between the lines!

Women are impossible! Men said it so… If you’re going to ask for a man’s point of view they’d say we WANT EVERYTHING. What they really can’t see is that what a woman wants is for men to be able to know exactly who she is and accept her for being so. Its true women may be fickle most of the times but then again, that’s just because men don’t know how to read between the lines of women. For example, if a girl would demand for a guy’s attention then that’s just because the attention given to her isn’t enough (or even none at all), and if a woman says DON’T be late this time, it only means YOU’RE always late. Unfortunately, it takes another woman to understand these lines. On top of everything else, women may be impossible, but all we ever wanted is the PRESENCE and ACCEPTANCE of the man we love.

shanon jade

The Most Romantic Movie - 50 First Dates!

2007-10-27T14:45:00.000-07:00

This Excerpt is Taken from the Official Website of the Movie
(http://www.sonypictures.com/homevideo/50firstdates/)

Adam Sandler and Drew Barrymore star together for the first time since The Wedding Singer in one of the funniest romantic comedies in years। Henry (Sandler) lives an enviable life in a Hawaiian paradise, spending every night with a beautiful tourist in search of an island fling. It's a sweet life with no strings attached...until he meets Lucy (Barrymore). He and Lucy hit it off from the get-go, but the next day she acts like she doesn't know him. Has his karma come around to kick him in the butt or what? Actually, Lucy has short-term memory loss so every night all memory of her day is erased. But a man in love will go to any lengths to win over the girl of his dreams, and if that means having to find imaginative ways of doing it over again every day, then Henry's up for the challenge. Rob Schneider (Big Daddy) and Sean Astin (The Lord of the Rings trilogy) co-star in 50 First Dates, which will win you over every time you watch it!

I consider this as the MOST romantic movie I have ever seen! Ladies, this is the real thing! This is what you call LOVE! This story goes to show that when a man loves a woman NOTHING is impossible for him. No barriers, no hesitations. So, girls, don't make up excuses for your lousy boyfriends when he starts the "No Call, No Show" attitude because you will know when a man truly loves you, and when he doesn't feel anything at all.